Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Learning to Heal

Summertime activities and extra attention to emotional healing work have kept me away from the computer the last few weeks. I have been reminded of several truths again:
  • Time in the out-of-doors is healing. Spending time in God's creation leads to quiet moments of reflection, recreating relieves tension and stress, and sunshine elevates the mood.
  • When you are working on new behavior and/or revisiting old memories to work through things--it takes extra energy. To find balance you need to accept it and make more time for stress relief and rest.
  • Each time we confront old beliefs with truth and are making new behavior changes, we are making progress and fashioning a better life for ourselves. But while you are first confronting and changing--life feels rocky, challenging, and downright uncomfortable.
  • Old memories that are hidden for a long time feel so powerful when we first unlock them--it is intense! But the very act of facing memories of abuse that we were afraid to look at starts diminishing their power.
What lessons have you been learning this summer? If you'd like to share remember that you can post a comment anonymously without giving your email address. If you run into problems--a few people have let me know that they couldn't post--you can send me and email and request that I post the content of your email. My email is; I hope to hear from some of you over the coming months.

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