Healthy or Abusive?

Discernment

Healthy people
Take responsibility for their needs;
Abusers
Feel everyone else should take care of their needs

Healthy people
Forgive others and forgive themselves when mistakes are made
Abusers
Require perfection and specialize in blaming and punishing

Healthy people
Listen to criticism and evaluate it
Abusers
Assume that they are the only one entitled to give criticism

Healthy people
try to understand others
Abusers
tell others how they should be

Healthy people
use self-control
Abusers
lack impulse control

Healthy people
try to resolve disagreements in a win-win way
Abusers
set out to demolish whoever disagrees with them in a you-lose way

Healthy people
care about the welfare of others
Abusers
ignore the welfare of others

Healthy people
give love without strings
Abusers
always have conditions